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“Finding Balance and Reflection: Lessons from December for Business Professionals”

The holiday season can be an overwhelming and demanding time for leaders. With numerous expectations and competing demands, it’s crucial for them to prioritize their time and resources efficiently. One effective way of doing this is by delegating tasks to others when necessary and setting clear boundaries to prevent burnout. By doing so, business professionals can successfully navigate through this season. Personally, the ability to set clear boundaries brings peace into my life. It’s like giving yourself a gift. I know in my profession, being a go-getter is highly praised, but it can lead to feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. What I do is resist the urge to go full throttle without acknowledging the already present stress. I put the brakes on those desires to move forward. Currently, I practice healthy habits, which may sound redundant, but it works. You only have one body, so take care of it.

Personally, December is a month of reflection for me. I take the last week of December, usually after Christmas, to reflect on a myriad of things. I ask myself some of the following questions reflecting on the current year:

1. What am I grateful for?

2. What were my accomplishments?

3. What were my proudest moments?

4. What were my milestones?

5. How did I increase in personal growth?

6. What were my significant spiritual moments?

7. Did I meet my financial goals, etc.?

It’s important to take some time to reflect on our achievements and lessons learned throughout the year. This will help us set ourselves up for continued growth and success in the coming year. We should also prioritize our own well-being during this time, whether through self-care activities or by spending quality time with loved ones.

In December, we can take the opportunity to learn from leadership and personal development lessons, which can help us approach the new year with renewed energy and a clear vision for the future. We should reflect on our progress, set new goals, and objectives for the upcoming year, and improve our self-awareness. Remember, you have the power to create positive change in your life. Take action now and pave the way for a successful and fulfilling year ahead!” Happy Holidays!

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle

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Dr.D

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It Pays to Understand People

                                                

Understanding people pay great dividends. This is true in many contexts, from interpersonal relationships to business dealings. No matter the context, understanding another person’s thoughts, feelings, motivations, and experiences is an invaluable asset.

People want to be listened to, respected, and understood. One of the most critical aspects of understanding people is empathy. Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and seeing the world through their eyes can help you gain valuable insights into how they perceive their environment. This knowledge can be used to improve communication and strengthen relationships. The University of Pennsylvania’s Dr. David Burns noted, “The biggest mistake you can make in trying to talk convincingly is to put your highest priority on expressing your ideas and feelings.”

Research supports the idea that understanding people benefits us in many ways. This includes fostering empathy, improving communication and relationships, expanding one’s perspectives, learning to appreciate diversity, and forming meaningful connections. Dr. David Burns noted the importance of prioritizing understanding and overexpressing one’s own ideas, which is essential for effective dialogue. In order to understand people, effort, patience, and humility are essential. Doing so will lead to numerous rewards, both in personal and professional contexts.

One research study that supports the benefits of understanding people is titled “The Role of Empathy in Interpersonal Relationships” by Souza and Shulman (2018). The study found a positive correlation between empathy and positive relationships, indicating that understanding another person’s thoughts, feelings, and motivations can help strengthen interpersonal connections. Another study, titled “Appreciating Differences: Cultivating an Understanding of Diversity” by Gomez and Pollack (2012), found that taking time to understand different perspectives can foster a sense of appreciation for diversity in society.

So, by striving to understand people, you can open yourself up to new possibilities and ideas. Hearing a different perspective can help expand your horizons, challenge existing assumptions, and encourage you to think more critically. By embracing this open-mindedness, you can learn to appreciate the value of diversity and foster a sense of mutual respect for those around you.

Understanding people is an ongoing journey that requires effort, patience, and humility. Whether a simple conversation or a complex business negotiation, taking time to listen and learn from others can pay dividends in the long run. By fostering an understanding of people and their experiences, we can create meaningful connections, open up new opportunities, and build a more equitable and inclusive society.

Here are a few tips that can help.

Understanding people is a skill that can be improved with practice. Here are some tips to help you understand people more effectively:

1. Be Present—Take time to listen to what others say, and don’t simply wait for your turn to speak.

2. Ask Questions—Show genuine interest in the other person’s perspective and ask questions to help clarify points of confusion.

3. Avoid Judgments—Stay away from making assumptions or judgments about someone else’s beliefs or experiences.

4. Connect—Try to find common ground or shared experiences that can help foster connection.

5. Summarize—Summarize the conversation and ask if you still need to include anything to ensure everyone has had an opportunity to be heard.

By taking the time to understand people, we can create more meaningful relationships and build a better future for us all. So, make understanding people your top priority today.

Dr. D

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Add Value to Others

What’s your attitude towards others? “You can’t make the other fella feel important in your presence if you secretly feel that he is a nobody.” This is a quote from Les Giblin. What a revelation! I always said people do and respond to what they see others do in response. People know when you are sincere and when you are hypocritical. Worst of all, you know your true feelings, which are evident in your actions and deeds. If you want the best from others, give them your best. Make them feel valuable. Biblically, it is the golden rule; doing unto others as you want them to do to you. The law of reciprocity applies here.

Maya Angelou famously said, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” People don’t care about your prestige, knowledge base, or high position. They want to know that you demonstrate and care about them. And show them that you stand by them. This is the yardstick upon which a person’s sense of responsibility is measured.

If you genuinely don’t want to help others but want them to help you reach an advantage, then you have problems and conflicts. When this happens, we must rely on manipulation to get people to move toward our benefit. Stop the manipulation; motivate instead! Like in any relationship, you must put something in it to get something out. 

To influence people is to show them how important they are and the value they bring to the relationship, the organization, or the community. Respond kindly to people and be humane in your interactions with others. Instead of manipulating people into obedience for your advantage, admit their importance through appreciative acts.

Don’t criticize or condemn; instead, compliment.

Give honest and sincere appreciation.

Become genuinely interested in others.

Make others feel important and do it sincerely.

Give others a reason to be proud of their good deeds.

Do not, by your attitude, make people feel less important.

In the words of Sydney J Harris, “People want to be appreciated, not impressed. They want to be regarded as human beings, not as sounding boards for other people’s Egos. They want to be treated as an End in themselves, not as a means towards the gratifications of another’s vanity.” What’s your attitude towards others? I hope in 2023 you will add value to them rather than devalue them.

Dr. D

Happy Holidays !!!

Why we do what we do? (Values)

Why you do what you do? 

What gives you meaning and purpose in life (home, work and personal/professional)?   According to researchers our values gives us meaning and purpose when it comes to our relationships, service to others and everyday decisions. 

Values are magical, they are our internal compass that steer us towards what’s favorable to us in our everyday existence.  When there’s big decisions that are made in our lives our core value guides us toward the answer.   In comparison with goals or plans which are set to focus on the outcomes or results in our lives.   Our values dictate how we carry out those big decisions we make daily in our lives.  They are as Jan Stassen said, “situation independent decision helpers.” 

Every decision you make in your life, no matter the context, you depend on your values to make the final decision. Your values resonate deeply. You are drawn toward them effortlessly. So, they aren’t just what you think is good. They are what you celebrate and measure success by. They are what you want to be remembered for. They are what you will sacrifice and go the extra mile for.

If you google “personal values” we find over 1 billion of us searched out this term.  There are core values such as Respect, Honesty, Trust, Caring and Fairness are some of my core values.   Values are individual and personal preferences of what we feel takes precedence over everything in our lives.    The bottom line: values are mostly held beliefs that is entrenched in our lives in our psyche, they are the barometer in which we judge things on a good and bad scale.  

  We begin to form them early in our childhood and it changes throughout our lifetime, they motivate us to act and behave in certain ways.  If you don’t like what you see in the mirror check out what you value most in life that’s why you do what you do.

How to align yourself with your values

In order to live a purposeful life, we need to make a conscious effort a conscious choice to align ourselves daily with our goals that coincides with our core value system.  Quote: “How we spend our day is how we spend our lives” -Annie Dillard

How do you spend your day? Take a look at your calendar, or the things you did within the last 24 hours.  This is a snapshot of what’s important in your life. Did those activities reflect you (your core values).  For example, is health and wellness apart of your daily or weekly routine?  Family time?  Time for personal development? How about, focusing on your spiritual or meditative fitness.   To quote Aristotle, “we are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act, but a habit”.  If your routines are not reflecting what your values represent, then you need to change to align yourself with your values system.  

Values gives us meaning it gives us our purpose in which we formulate the goals throughout our lives and the destiny we want to realize. The Choices that we make weather be our relationship we form, how we relate to our society or the type of organization we choice to become apart of all reflect our values.

So, the better you know your core values, the better you make decisions in your life, and the better you align yourselves with career paths, having better relationships, and doing meaningful extracurricular activities.

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Dr D

The Carolyle Destiny Group

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Success Thrives in Conducive Surroundings

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The basic principle of success is constant growth and achievement of your next goal. It is done through dedication, commitment, perseverance, and hard work. What it also requires from you is a conducive environment where it can flourish.

Such an environment can be produced when you surround yourself with like-minded, successful individuals. These are people who share your vision for success, and who believe in your goals as much as you do. The quality of the people you surround yourself with will continue to have a major influence on the trajectory of your life. This is one of the most important lessons I have learned, and one that has signified to me the importance of good company. I learned through Jim Rohn, that we become the combined average of the five people we hang around the most. He would continue this thought by saying, “you can tell the quality of health, attitude, and income of this person by looking at the people around them.”

The individuals in our lives serve as a catalyst: they can either help us reach ever-higher heights in our lives or become blocks that prevent success. I have been lucky in being surrounded by individuals who shared my values and goals, from family to teachers and mentors. The roles they have played at critical junctures of my life have helped me determine who I am, and the direction my life has taken.

The book of Matthew states “Do not give dogs what is sacred, do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” This is a simple lesson in surrounding yourself with people who understand and share your values and goals, rather than those who would trample them.

There are a great many examples to be found from all around us of the power of surrounding yourself with the right people. Henry Ford, from the moment of first acquiring his wealth, to exponentially expanding it, kept himself in the company of such individuals as Thomas Edison and John Burroughs, men who shared his ideals and compassion. He tried to associate himself with great men, who possessed the knowledge base, intelligence, and creative thoughts that ultimately helped him on his way to immense success.

PRACTICAL EXERCISES

This is an approach we all must adopt if we wish to be truly on the path of continuous success. You must become highly selective of the people you allow in your inner circle. Do not feel bad about the people that are excluded, so defined your inner circle of friends and mentors you can call on.  At the same time, make sure you are around people who are successful, who themselves are already where you want to be.

Now go one step further. Examine your inner circle and ensure these are the people who give you confidence. Make sure they enhance your creative and decision-making abilities and give you the strength and ability to face any challenges that come your way in the pursuit of your goal.

Dr. D

The Carolyle Destiny Group

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