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   Success is no easy journey

The famous political economist and author Lester Thurow points out that in a competitive world, you have two possibilities: “You can lose, or if you want to win, you can change.” Once you develop a plan and put it into action, you’re not finished; your success lies within the journey. As you begin to walk towards success, you will come across obstacles and showstoppers that can impede your progress. This is expected; don’t be deterred.

In my book, “Enemy in the Bush”, I talk about success as a progressive (steady) realization of a worthy idea or goal.  The key word is progressive, meaning (continuous, daily growth) towards goal attainment. It starts with planning, determination, and consistent daily efforts toward your destination, and along the way, success is realized.  Along the way, mistakes and errors will be made, and setbacks will occur on your path.  However, remember that failures are milestones on the success journey. “Each time you plan risk, fail, reevaluate, and adjust, you have another opportunity to begin again, only better than last.”

I heard a story about Thomas Edison. While he and his assistant were looking at his laboratory burned to the ground, he said, “Thank goodness all our mistakes were burned up; now we can start again fresh.” This reminds me of a quote from Les Brown, “when life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up.”

Give up on the notion of ever arriving at success unscathed or untouchable; success is always an uphill battle. I wish you much success in the New Year 2025!!!

Dr D

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Redefining Success: A Holistic Path to True Happiness

In a world that often measures success by career achievements and financial gains, many find themselves trapped in an endless pursuit of external validation. However, research and personal experiences indicate that genuine success and happiness come from a more holistic approach to life. By shifting our focus to overall well-being and prioritizing balance, we can unlock the secret to lasting contentment.

The Wholeness of Holistic Success:

Holistic success is based on the interconnectedness of mind, body, spirit, and emotions. By nurturing each aspect of our being, we create a harmonious existence that transcends material achievements. Below are key aspects of a holistic approach to success:

  1. Emotional Intelligence: Cultivate self-awareness and empathy to foster meaningful relationships and a deep sense of fulfillment.
  2. Personal Growth: Strive for continuous growth and self-improvement to ensure flexibility and resilience in the face of challenges.
  3. Health and Wellness: Prioritize your physical and mental well-being through balanced nutrition, regular exercise, and effective stress management techniques.
  4. Meaning and Purpose: Align your actions with your core values and pursue work that resonates with your passions and life goals.
  5. Mindfulness and Spirituality: Practice presence, gratitude, and self-reflection to nurture inner peace and a profound sense of connection.

Embracing a holistic definition of success enriches our lives with meaning and purpose while promoting long-lasting happiness. As we learn to value balance, personal growth, and well-being, we embark on a transformative journey toward a more fulfilling existence. Ultimately, holistic success offers a refreshing perspective that transcends conventional norms and nurtures our whole selves in the pursuit of genuine happiness.

In this season of giving joy and happiness, let us reflect on how to implement this new holistic approach to success. How can we apply these principles in our lives to ensure that the next year will be even better?

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Dr. D

References:

Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. New York: Ballantine Books.

Frankl, V. E. (2006). Man’s Search for Meaning. Boston: Beacon Press.

Goleman, D. (2006). Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (2013). Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. New York: Bantam Books.

World Health Organization. (2014). Mental Health: A State of Well-Being. https://www.who.int/features/factfiles/mental_health/en/

“Finding Balance and Reflection: Lessons from December for Business Professionals”

The holiday season can be an overwhelming and demanding time for leaders. With numerous expectations and competing demands, it’s crucial for them to prioritize their time and resources efficiently. One effective way of doing this is by delegating tasks to others when necessary and setting clear boundaries to prevent burnout. By doing so, business professionals can successfully navigate through this season. Personally, the ability to set clear boundaries brings peace into my life. It’s like giving yourself a gift. I know in my profession, being a go-getter is highly praised, but it can lead to feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. What I do is resist the urge to go full throttle without acknowledging the already present stress. I put the brakes on those desires to move forward. Currently, I practice healthy habits, which may sound redundant, but it works. You only have one body, so take care of it.

Personally, December is a month of reflection for me. I take the last week of December, usually after Christmas, to reflect on a myriad of things. I ask myself some of the following questions reflecting on the current year:

1. What am I grateful for?

2. What were my accomplishments?

3. What were my proudest moments?

4. What were my milestones?

5. How did I increase in personal growth?

6. What were my significant spiritual moments?

7. Did I meet my financial goals, etc.?

It’s important to take some time to reflect on our achievements and lessons learned throughout the year. This will help us set ourselves up for continued growth and success in the coming year. We should also prioritize our own well-being during this time, whether through self-care activities or by spending quality time with loved ones.

In December, we can take the opportunity to learn from leadership and personal development lessons, which can help us approach the new year with renewed energy and a clear vision for the future. We should reflect on our progress, set new goals, and objectives for the upcoming year, and improve our self-awareness. Remember, you have the power to create positive change in your life. Take action now and pave the way for a successful and fulfilling year ahead!” Happy Holidays!

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle

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Dr.D

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Breaking Free from the Grasshopper Mentality: Empowering Mindset Shifts for Success

How people think can be compared to the behavior of a trapped grasshopper. 
If you put a grasshopper in a jar with a lid over it, it will try to escape by using its powerful legs to smash the jar’s walls. At first, the grasshopper will appear persistent and determined to change its situation. However, after repeatedly trying and failing to escape, the grasshopper will eventually give up and stop trying. Even if you remove the lid, the grasshopper will not
attempt to escape because it has learned that its situation will never change.
This behavior is called the “grasshopper mentality.”

People with a grasshopper mentality have a negative attitude that prevents them from achieving their goals. They see themselves as inferior to others and believe they are incapable of success. They are afraid of taking risks or trying new things.

This mentality is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that you are not capable of success, then you are less likely to try and more likely to fail. On the other hand, if you believe in yourself and your abilities, you are more likely to try and succeed. And I have to put myself in this scenario, also.

We all must change our mindset and take small steps to overcome the grasshopper mentality. We consistently need to surround ourselves with positive people who believe in us and be willing to work hard. Discarding mental roadblocks and accepting, responding, and adapting to change is also essential.
Remember, we may limit ourselves, not our circumstances in life.

So, if you are struggling with the grasshopper mentality, don’t give up. Keep believing in yourself and keep taking steps forward. The Grasshopper Mentality is something you can learn from. If you trap a grasshopper in a jar with a lid, it will use its legs to try and escape. Over time, it will give up
and stop trying to escape – even if you remove the lid. The grasshopper has become convinced that it will never be able to escape and has settled for its new life. This reminds me of people that I see every day who settle for what life throws at them. This mentality is harmful, and it stops the partakers from
achieving their goals. Those who participate in this mental behavior often see themselves as inferior to others and believe they are incapable of success. They may also be afraid of taking risks or trying new things.

The grasshopper mentality is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that you are not capable of success, then you are less likely to try and more likely to fail. On the other hand, if you believe that you are capable of success, then you are more likely to try and more likely to succeed. Sounds simple, it
can be.

To overcome the grasshopper mentality, you need to change your mindset.  Self-affirmation and positive thinking can help you do this. You need to believe in yourselves and your abilities. Take small steps and surround yourself with positive people who believe in you. It’s essential to accept, respond, and adapt to change because you will get stuck, stagnant, or dormant if you don’t. You are in the same position without knowing our true potential.
Let go of these mental roadblocks that will limit you, and remember that you may limit yourself, not your circumstances in life.

If you are struggling with the grasshopper mentality, don’t give up. Keep believing in yourself and keep taking steps forward.

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Dr. D

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Add Value to Others

What’s your attitude towards others? “You can’t make the other fella feel important in your presence if you secretly feel that he is a nobody.” This is a quote from Les Giblin. What a revelation! I always said people do and respond to what they see others do in response. People know when you are sincere and when you are hypocritical. Worst of all, you know your true feelings, which are evident in your actions and deeds. If you want the best from others, give them your best. Make them feel valuable. Biblically, it is the golden rule; doing unto others as you want them to do to you. The law of reciprocity applies here.

Maya Angelou famously said, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” People don’t care about your prestige, knowledge base, or high position. They want to know that you demonstrate and care about them. And show them that you stand by them. This is the yardstick upon which a person’s sense of responsibility is measured.

If you genuinely don’t want to help others but want them to help you reach an advantage, then you have problems and conflicts. When this happens, we must rely on manipulation to get people to move toward our benefit. Stop the manipulation; motivate instead! Like in any relationship, you must put something in it to get something out. 

To influence people is to show them how important they are and the value they bring to the relationship, the organization, or the community. Respond kindly to people and be humane in your interactions with others. Instead of manipulating people into obedience for your advantage, admit their importance through appreciative acts.

Don’t criticize or condemn; instead, compliment.

Give honest and sincere appreciation.

Become genuinely interested in others.

Make others feel important and do it sincerely.

Give others a reason to be proud of their good deeds.

Do not, by your attitude, make people feel less important.

In the words of Sydney J Harris, “People want to be appreciated, not impressed. They want to be regarded as human beings, not as sounding boards for other people’s Egos. They want to be treated as an End in themselves, not as a means towards the gratifications of another’s vanity.” What’s your attitude towards others? I hope in 2023 you will add value to them rather than devalue them.

Dr. D

Happy Holidays !!!