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I understand that you are someone who likes to constantly push themselves to new heights, both personally and professionally. It’s great to have this drive to improve, but it’s important to keep in mind that true happiness and well-being cannot be achieved through sheer productivity alone.

I have come to realize that the key to improved well-being without sacrificing creativity or getting stuck in a rut lies in having the courage to pursue happiness on a deeper level. It takes bravery to challenge the status quo, to break free from the traditional idea of what success looks like, and to embrace a more holistic approach to life.

For a long time, I believed that my happiness was directly tied to my career achievements and financial success. However, as I grew, I discovered that these things were only a small piece of the happiness puzzle. To find true happiness, I started prioritizing my mental and emotional well-being by spending time on self-care and personal development. I also tried to nurture my relationships and find joy in everyday moments. And you know what? It made a world of difference.

By stepping back and taking a closer look at what truly brings me happiness, I have been able to continue pursuing my professional goals without feeling burnt out or trapped in a cycle of never-ending hustle.

If you value personal development as much as I do, I encourage you to reconsider your definition of happiness and have the courage to go after it. There’s nothing wrong with striving for success, but not if it comes at the cost of your well-being and contentment. By adopting a more balanced approach to life, you will see that your creativity and productivity will thrive.

Remember, true happiness takes courage, but the rewards are immeasurable. So go out there, challenge the norm, and pursue a life filled with joy, purpose, and growth. You’ve got this!

Believe you can and you’re halfway there. – Theodore Roosevelt

How people think can be compared to the behavior of a trapped grasshopper.
If you put a grasshopper in a jar with a lid over it, it will try to escape by using its powerful legs to smash the jar’s walls. At first, the grasshopper will appear persistent and determined to change its situation. However, after repeatedly trying and failing to escape, the grasshopper will eventually give up and stop trying. Even if you remove the lid, the grasshopper will not
attempt to escape because it has learned that its situation will never change.
This behavior is called the “grasshopper mentality.”

People with a grasshopper mentality have a negative attitude that prevents them from achieving their goals. They see themselves as inferior to others and believe they are incapable of success. They are afraid of taking risks or trying new things.

This mentality is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that you are not capable of success, then you are less likely to try and more likely to fail. On the other hand, if you believe in yourself and your abilities, you are more likely to try and succeed. And I have to put myself in this scenario, also.

We all must change our mindset and take small steps to overcome the grasshopper mentality. We consistently need to surround ourselves with positive people who believe in us and be willing to work hard. Discarding mental roadblocks and accepting, responding, and adapting to change is also essential.
Remember, we may limit ourselves, not our circumstances in life.

So, if you are struggling with the grasshopper mentality, don’t give up. Keep believing in yourself and keep taking steps forward. The Grasshopper Mentality is something you can learn from. If you trap a grasshopper in a jar with a lid, it will use its legs to try and escape. Over time, it will give up
and stop trying to escape – even if you remove the lid. The grasshopper has become convinced that it will never be able to escape and has settled for its new life. This reminds me of people that I see every day who settle for what life throws at them. This mentality is harmful, and it stops the partakers from
achieving their goals. Those who participate in this mental behavior often see themselves as inferior to others and believe they are incapable of success. They may also be afraid of taking risks or trying new things.

The grasshopper mentality is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe that you are not capable of success, then you are less likely to try and more likely to fail. On the other hand, if you believe that you are capable of success, then you are more likely to try and more likely to succeed. Sounds simple, it
can be.

To overcome the grasshopper mentality, you need to change your mindset. Self-affirmation and positive thinking can help you do this. You need to believe in yourselves and your abilities. Take small steps and surround yourself with positive people who believe in you. It’s essential to accept, respond, and adapt to change because you will get stuck, stagnant, or dormant if you don’t. You are in the same position without knowing our true potential.
Let go of these mental roadblocks that will limit you, and remember that you may limit yourself, not your circumstances in life.

If you are struggling with the grasshopper mentality, don’t give up. Keep believing in yourself and keep taking steps forward.

Thank you for reading my blog.

Dr. D

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With over 40 million Americans suffering from some form of anxiety, it’s time we took a long hard look at our beliefs and the society which cultivates them.

Fear can manipulate situations and cause us to subconsciously make choices and take actions that do not directly align with our values and beliefs. Fear underlies almost every wrong decision, negative reaction, and notions of self-doubt we’ve ever had.

Anxiety, panic, apprehension, and anger are forms of fear having manipulated itself and tricked us into thinking otherwise. The result? Many people end up self-medicating or abusing substances, so they don’t have to deal with the fears, thinking that by temporarily ignoring it, we are breaking up with it entirely.

To let go of our fears, we must first detach ourselves from them, which means cultivating a sense of self-awareness. Confronting your fears is the only way to access the ability to transform and break away from them.

A great technique that can help those seeking to let go of fears once and for all is to examine the worst-case scenario for whatever you’re fearing.

To start, zero into precisely what your fear is – try to narrow it down to a word or sentence if you can. This step can often prove the most challenging, especially for those unaccustomed to facing difficult emotions head-on. The key to this step is to be open, aware, and honest with yourself. Try writing down your fears if you’re struggling to dissect them.

Next, imagine the worst-case scenario surrounding each fear. By sitting through this discomfort, it becomes possible for you to release the feasibility of the situation and evaluate its likelihood.

Finally, take note of how each fear makes you feel paying particular attention to where in your body you feel it. For example, you may experience a tightness in the chest or nerves in your stomach. Over time you will recognize this feeling so you can address your fear before it gets out of control.

Confronting our fears while in a ‘safe’ environment is the best way to strengthen us to combat them when they might arise in an unexpected situation.

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I set a lot of goals for my life. Many of them I have hit the bull’s eye. Others I have fell short of the objective, and we have certain milestones or targets that we need to hit along the way in order to realize the goal. When you hit the target or goal, you feel good or ecstatic.

Earl Nightingale said it the best—that success is the realization of a worthy ideal.

But the problem with goal setting is our tendency not to see what’s next on our journey. Some would say, “Derrick, I have reached the peak of this mountain that I set for myself.” Sadly, many lose the drive, no stamina or no desire, and they stop at that point. It’s like you accomplished a small success, and then you rest on that small success. You never move forward or beyond.

When you think about a growth conscious person, they continue beyond that goal and take on a different mindset. In fact, they want growth. You will continue growth, and you will hit all your goals when you look back on your journey five or ten years later.

Man, that is a great feeling to move on to greater heights. You keep climbing the ladder until you reach heaven, and then you can stop. This reminds me of the song from the TV show, The Jeffersons, which is a part of my story, “We’re moving on up to the east side.” I remember in the early days when I was in my 20s. I had just started a family and had a new job, which was 20 miles away from home. I needed transportation, and I didn’t have a lot of money. Neither my mother nor my siblings had the money to lend me to buy a decent vehicle. I saw an ad in the local newspaper that a private owner had a 1970 Plymouth that was once a taxicab for sale. The private owner removed the decals and the taxi cab signs. But it still had the painted colors of the local taxicab company.

On occasion I would get flagged down on the street by people wanting cab service. Many times I would stop to the anticipating customer and explain that my vehicle was privately owned, and they would have to call the local taxi cab company. Some would get really upset at me. This vehicle was always in the repair shop. Finally, I got tired of folks flagging me down and shoveling out wasted money for a beat-up vehicle, so I brought another used car, a Chevrolet Vega, which had an aluminum engine block. That car lasted a few months. The engine block cracked, and blue smoke traced my path down the local streets. I kept working through my trouble vehicles for three years when I bought a new Caravan off the showroom floor. That was a good feeling. However, I was in the military and serving my country and paying big monthly payments. Suze Orman taught me the lesson to stop using finance companies. But that took growth and hitting goal after goal after goal. During this time, I developed a growth plan for my life and started getting mentors in my life. Each mentor taught me growth principles that helped facilitate growth and maturity in my life. Looking back over my present journey, I see the growth, and the pain of growth. You may say that was great and proud of you. But I just don’t have the energy, knowledge, money, or time to plan for other growth challenges.

John Maxwell said, “now is the best time to start anything.” Ask yourself, if not now WHEN? Growth is intentional, not accidental.

The real process of growth begins with your thoughts. Those thoughts become words, and the words become actions! James Allen, author of As a Man Thinketh, says, “You cannot travel within and stand still without.” Think about it. All life, except mankind, grows to its full potential. It’s only mankind that circumvents the process. For example, how tall will a tree grow? A tree doesn’t decide to stop growing. It continues growing all its life.

So, I challenge you not to stop or do away with goal setting but go above and beyond goal setting and latch on to the growth mindset.

I love personal growth and development. And I think you will, too, once you start seeing a difference by applying what I have shared with you in this blog.

Derrick Darden, PhD

Derrick C Darden, PhD

There’s an old saying by Sam Walton: “There is only one boss, the customer. Serving the customer is the reason your business exists. In the professional world, your job, whether it’s in sales, services or manufacturing, revolves around the customer.”

However, what happens when there is a conflict between a customer and an employee?

In this short blog, we will talk about how to handle those situations. Unfortunately, they are inevitable, but we have some tips and tricks on how to resolve them.

But before we get to them, I want to tell you a story.

I once heard about a customer who was waiting patiently to be seen by the optometrist to be fitted with new glasses. Her number was finally called, but instead of the optometrist technician waiting directly on her, he decided to answer a question from a customer who hadn’t taken a number at all. “Ironically, this same technician was rude to my husband only a month ago,” the customer remembered.

Now, this customer became infuriated and very loud. Of course, this got the attention of everyone in the store. In the meantime, the manager was watching this take place in the background and quickly came to the aid of the furious customer. The quickly extinguished the situation. He took care of the customer, and the customer left happy.

As this story illustrates, one way to resolve a conflict to get straight to the source. What is the source? It is the foundation of how this conflict occurred. There’s always a second perception behind the truth. Maybe the customer was irritated by another, unrelated situation. But you assume that all this anger and resentment is geared towards you. Most of the time, the customer doesn’t have a personal problem, but a consumer problem. And, as a consumer, they must get quality and satisfaction.

So avoid complaining to others and whimpering. Avoid negative name-calling and further eroding your relationship with that customer.

Second, dissect the problem, not each other. Attack the problem by looking at it from different angles, then ask the customer to help buy into the solution.

Third, avoid the “blame game.” Instead of wasting your energy in finger-pointing and trying to prove your point (if there is a point to be made), direct your energy to resolving the issue at hand.

Here are some other tips on how to resolve a conflict with a customer:

1. Listen to your customer’s concerns, get an understanding of what is being said, take off the filters. Listen with both ears, and speak once.

2. Remember the golden rule: Do onto others as you want them to do unto you. You cannot judge someone. Put yourself in that customer’s shoes. As the saying goes, you can’t judge a person until you walk a mile in their shoes.

3. Understanding is key. Understand why the conflict happened. What are some of the causes? Never assume that these things always happen.

4. Lastly, to fix the conflict, go to the customer and make things right between you two. Re-establish your relationship and earn back their trust.

I hope this article will help you with your decision making. And remember – without conflict, life would be boring!

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