Category: Growth

Developing Resilience: Learning from Failure and Overcoming Fear

Fear can be a real buzzkill, from arachnophobia to stage fright. It’s an instinct meant to protect us, but when we let it control us, we can miss out on incredible growth opportunities.

Have you ever stopped to think that fear might be holding you back? Fear of failure is a biggie, but it’s a limiting belief that can stunt our personal and professional growth.

The best way to tackle fear is to confront it head-on. This means stepping outside of your comfort zone and taking risks. But let’s not forget comfort zones are there for safety, not to trap us. Our comfort zones can expand and grow if we push ourselves to try new things.

To start:

  1. Identify what you’re afraid of.
  2. Create a list of the thoughts and ideas holding you back from trying new things.
  3. Use this list to help you step out of your comfort zone. You’ll be amazed at how much you can expand your comfort zone by testing its limits.

For example, if public speaking makes your knees wobble, research the fear and how to overcome it. You may not become the next Tony Robbins, but you can become more confident in public speaking.

To all the young professionals out there, let me impart some sage advice I received when I first started out: belief in yourself and your abilities to achieve your goals. You’ve got grit, resilience, and an unbreakable spirit. Don’t let fear or doubts keep you from chasing your dreams. Every opportunity is a chance to learn, grow, and improve yourself.

Of course, your career is just one part of your life. Remember to focus on what matters, like spending time with loved ones, caring for your health, and nourishing your spiritual side. Your worth is not measured by your accomplishments but by the person you’re becoming. So go out there and make a positive difference in the world! We all experience fear, from spiders to public speaking. Fear is an instinct designed to protect us. However, we can take advantage of growth opportunities when we allow fear to drive our decision-making.

Have you ever considered that fear could be holding you back? Fear of failure is widespread, but this thinking constricts rather than expands who we are.

The best way to eliminate fear is to face it head-on. Leaving your comfort zone is a requirement. Just remember, comfort zones are there for safety, not to restrict us. Comfort zones can grow if we expose ourselves to new situations. 

First, the best way to face fears is to identify what you’re afraid of. List thoughts and ideas holding you back from trying new things. Use this list as a tool to help you step outside your comfort zone. You’ll be surprised at how much you can expand your comfort zone by testing its limits. 

If you fear public speaking, research how to overcome this fear. You may never enjoy speaking publicly, but you can become more confident. The same can be said about any fear holding you back.

I want to encourage those young professionals to launch into their careers. Someone once told me this when I started on my career path. Believe in yourself and your abilities to achieve your goals. You have strength and resilience within you, so don’t let fear or doubts hold you back from pursuing what sets your soul on fire. Let every opportunity be a chance to learn, grow, and improve yourself. Be disciplined in your work habits, keep your commitments, and strive for excellence.

Remember that your true worth lies not in your accomplishments but in the person you are becoming. Meaning doesn’t just focus on building your career; balance it with those essential things in life, such as being around family and friends; think about your health and spiritual life. May you find purpose and fulfillment in your career while making a positive difference in the lives of others.

Try something new For 30 Days take a few minutes to watch this short Ted Talk about a different way to think about setting and achieving goals: https://bit.ly/35ZA3JH

Dr. D

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Success is no easy journey

The famous political economist and author, Lester Thurow points out that a competitive world has two possibilities for you. “You can lose or if you want to win you can change.” Once you develop a plan and put it into action, you’re not finished, your success lies within the journey.   As you begin to walk towards success, you will come across obstacles and showstoppers that can impede your progress. This is expected, don’t be deterred.

In my book, “Enemy in the Bush”, I talk about success as a progressive (steady) realization of a worthy idea or goal.  The key word is progressive, meaning (continuous, daily, growth) towards goal attainment. It starts out with planning, determination, and consistent daily efforts toward your destination, and along the way, success is realized.  Along the way, mistakes will happen, errors will be made, and setbacks will occur on your path.  However, remember that failures are milestones on the success journey. “Each time you plan risk, fail, reevaluate, and adjust, you have another opportunity to begin again, only better than the last time.”

I heard a story about Thomas Edison. While he and his assistant were looking at his laboratory burned to the ground, he said, “Thank goodness all our mistakes were burned up; now we can start again fresh.” This reminds me of a quote from Les Brown, “when life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up.”

Give up on the notion of ever arriving at success unscathed or untouchable, “success is always an uphill battle.”-John Maxwell

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Happy New Year 2023

Dr. D

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Add Value to Others

What’s your attitude towards others? “You can’t make the other fella feel important in your presence if you secretly feel that he is a nobody.” This is a quote from Les Giblin. What a revelation! I always said people do and respond to what they see others do in response. People know when you are sincere and when you are hypocritical. Worst of all, you know your true feelings, which are evident in your actions and deeds. If you want the best from others, give them your best. Make them feel valuable. Biblically, it is the golden rule; doing unto others as you want them to do to you. The law of reciprocity applies here.

Maya Angelou famously said, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” People don’t care about your prestige, knowledge base, or high position. They want to know that you demonstrate and care about them. And show them that you stand by them. This is the yardstick upon which a person’s sense of responsibility is measured.

If you genuinely don’t want to help others but want them to help you reach an advantage, then you have problems and conflicts. When this happens, we must rely on manipulation to get people to move toward our benefit. Stop the manipulation; motivate instead! Like in any relationship, you must put something in it to get something out. 

To influence people is to show them how important they are and the value they bring to the relationship, the organization, or the community. Respond kindly to people and be humane in your interactions with others. Instead of manipulating people into obedience for your advantage, admit their importance through appreciative acts.

Don’t criticize or condemn; instead, compliment.

Give honest and sincere appreciation.

Become genuinely interested in others.

Make others feel important and do it sincerely.

Give others a reason to be proud of their good deeds.

Do not, by your attitude, make people feel less important.

In the words of Sydney J Harris, “People want to be appreciated, not impressed. They want to be regarded as human beings, not as sounding boards for other people’s Egos. They want to be treated as an End in themselves, not as a means towards the gratifications of another’s vanity.” What’s your attitude towards others? I hope in 2023 you will add value to them rather than devalue them.

Dr. D

Happy Holidays !!!

Clarity of Purpose

Each one of us is born with a unique life purpose. Whether you know it or not, you were not born to work, pay taxes, and die.  You were created for more. We are here to serve each other.  In the words of Muhammad Ali, “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth.”I believe we are made up of different body parts, but each part is not only needed but also vital for the whole body to function. “To live a life that has clarity of purpose is living life upgraded, fulfilled and enjoyable in everything you do.” (Jack Canfield).

Living a purposeful life dictates your daily routines, consequent upon which time becomes very important.

  • Everything you do is done with a clear purpose in mind.
  • Every moment and every action taken is with intention, according to your purpose and plan.

For example, family is one important area to me; I wanted to connect with my family on my wife’s side as well as mine.

That meant to me reaching out to older relatives either by phone or email and volunteering to be on the committee for family reunions.  I outlined my desired goals using the Destiny Action plan and the steps I would need to take to achieve these goals. Then I set a date to achieve this goal. The goal was to know — five new relatives a year. This is my third year doing this goal and the experience has been phenomenal. I fell in love with all of my family members. What an experience! To make this possible, I use the templates and instructions outlined in the Destiny Action Plan course, which is on sale for the month of December and January located within the courses section tab on this blog site. The Destiny Action Plan course is 4 modules that will guide you step by step on how to outline your specific desired goals and lay them out using the attached templates along with an instructional video.  Start your New Year out well-planned and structured.

To live a life with clarity on purpose, you live a different habitual daily existence on his service. Everything you do and all of your activities are tailored to fulfilling that purpose – some would say you live a very self-disciplined life.

Quote: Napoleon hill, “there is one quality that one must possess to win and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what you want, and burning desire to possess it.” Clarity of purpose is vital for achieving success and for making dreams come true. If you have a clear direction, nothing is vague.

Dr. D

The Carolyle Destiny Group

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