Overcoming The Barriers of Empowering Others

The truth about empowerment is that it’s powerful. When a leader, schoolteacher, or parent allows those they are responsible for or have authority over to grow and expand their potential, that is exponential power!

When you empower others, you give them the license to develop and the freedom to express their talents and abilities to expand themselves and the organization. 

“Empowerment has an incredible high return” (John Maxwell,2007). Empowerment is a win-win for everyone in the organization, including the employee’s life, because it helps them find meaning and purpose in their work.

To quote John Seely Brown, an expert in organizational studies, “The job of leadership today is not just to make money, it is to make meaning.”

Research shows that when an employee finds meaning in their work, they are more productive, more energetic, and have a sense of mental and physical wellbeing.

It saddens me greatly when I come across leaders who fail to empower their employees. This creates barriers within the organization that the employee cannot overcome. If these barriers remain, people leave the organization to find other organizations where they can expand and express their talents and abilities. Hence, the Great Resignation, which dominated the headlines in 2021.  

There are three main reasons that leaders fail to empower their workers

  1. Job security
  2. Resistance to change
  3. Lack of self-worth

Job security

Fear is the big enemy of progress—fear of losing our positions or status. So, we cross our arms to growth in our lives, which affects others. We worry about ourselves and what we may lose if we help our subordinates. With this frame of mind, we believe we will become dispensable, which creates a weak leader. This leader does not value the organization; therefore, the leader becomes a liability. The truth is when you empower others; you empower yourself. This is a powerful concept; when you elevate others, you elevate yourself. Personally, it’s an exhilaration unimaginable when I see people grow into leadership positions that I once held. When you become valuable to the organization, you become indispensable.

Resistance to change

Coming up through the military ranks, I found that the military was ever-evolving, with new training, new equipment, and new policies. This was because, in the bigger picture, the world was changing, new enemies were on the rise, and threats to our national security and their militaries were introducing more sophisticated weaponry, which threatened our sovereignty as a nation. 

To stay competitive in this changing world, we had to make modifications to our forces, so a change was inevitable.

When you empower people, you encourage them to grow and innovate, as change equals progress. In the military, change was an accepted norm. To maintain the competitive edge in any organization, change is inevitable.

Effective leaders embrace change, leaders are agents of change.

Self-Worth

As a leader, if you are self-conscious about how you look or what people will think of you when you stand in front of them, you will not be an effective leader, as you do not have the confidence to lead others.

“Self-conscious people rarely become good leaders” (John Maxwell).

Throughout my life, when in leadership positions both in the military and in civilian life, I was not always well-liked, but I was fair. I always had this adage to work my way out of a job. So, when I saw a subordinate desiring more responsibility, they were mentored and trained in the next highest position. When they proved they could handle the next step, they were put in a position of authority. I was very successful in this approach in developing leaders within the organization.

Throughout my years, I developed “thick skin.” Leaders must have a strong sense of self-worth. As a leader, you must believe in yourself and the mission, then people will believe in the mission also. 

I love the phrase “follow me”. This saying refers to an army infantry soldier charging forward into battle while suggesting others follow them.   This should be a leader’s motto, not being self-conscious of what others think.    

My encouragement to you is that empowerment of individuals assures individual and organizational success. This translates into the organization having a competitive advantage in its industry. This also enhances the workplace culture within the organization. Remember, whatever leadership role you play in the organization, if you allow people to be creative, innovative, and have the freedom to grow and develop, your job becomes easy.    You begin to work your way out of that job and transition to a new one. Think of yourself as a servant and not the taskmaster as a leader.

Reference:

Maxwell, J (2007). The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, Harper Collins Leadership.

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The Mirror and Me

Hope you enjoy the poem, as I certainly do every time I read it.

The Mirror and Me

When I look in the mirror, what do I see?

Reflections of a double-sided me.

One side is everything I ever hope to be.

Yet my greatest problem is staring back at me.

There are times when I rush out to get ahead,

And I find myself leading when I need to be led.

 Courage is needed—how can I overcome me?

How can I lead others with authenticity?

I will remember the best and worst in me.

Doing this will keep me growing humbly.

I will seek others out more faithful than me,

And ask for help with my vulnerabilities.

To lead and do right, is my possibility.

To do this, I will visit my mirror regularly

Self-Discipline (A different perspective)

What’s at the core of achieving the good life? To start exploring this question, let’s look at what’s not at the core. The major key is not learning how to set goals, or managing your time. And it’s not mastering the fine art of leadership. Day by day, we try to find ways to improve ourselves by learning how to do new things. We spend a lifetime gathering knowledge in classrooms through textbooks and experiences. But if knowledge is power, then why do those who seek it sometimes fall short of their objective? Why, despite our quests for knowledge and experience, do we find ourselves aimlessly wandering, settling for mere existence rather than a life of substance?

Everyone has their own opinion, but, in my view, the answer is lack of discipline.

We need to put ourselves in front of that word discipline and call it self-discipline. Self-discipline is basically one’s ability to focus or act consistently to complete a task or attain a goal. It doesn’t matter how intelligent you are, or if you got the highest honors in school, or attended all the conferences and seminars of the great orators. Unless you apply what you’ve learned, you won’t get results. If you do apply your knowledge, eventually you will realize success. To quote Earl Nightingale: “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal or goal.”  The key word is here is “progressive”, which means you’re moving towards an objective.

So, self-discipline is better than knowledge. When you’re disciplined, it means you’re applying knowledge. Not only did you study to get results, but you’re also applying what you learned. I like to say that knowledge is like paint: you don’t see the difference unless you apply it.  

So, the key to having a good life and success is consistent self-discipline. Whether you want to be a good parent, have better relationships, or be an influential leader, if you lack consistent discipline, your results will be haphazard. You’ll be all over the place. Zig Ziglar said it best: “Don’t be a wandering generality, be an aiming specific.” Knowing what you want and bringing that to pass requires a change, either physically and/or mentally. Setting goals is not a catch-all, and time management technique is not the hallmark of mastery. Studying the Art of Leadership doesn’t bestow any honors upon you. 

However, if you act on the things you want to achieve day by day, your actions become habitual. That’s when you’ll see results.

Self-Discipline and leadership

Self-discipline is the highest form of leadership. You are the captain of your ship, the master of your own soul. Leading yourself is a challenge, and how well you do it is one way your character shows up. Honestly, there are days when I just want to take a break from keeping myself under control. The problem is, it’s unwise to take a day off.  

The bottom line: if you want to live the good life, follow Jim Rohn’s formula: “Success = Just a few acts of SELF-DISCIPLINE, practiced daily, over a reasonable period. 

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Reprogram your brain!

No lasting change ever came about without consistent effort, and in terms of personal growth, this often involves getting a little uncomfortable.

The ‘growth mindset’ is defined as an individual’s belief that their talents and contributions have the ability to be developed through hard work, practice, and patience. Those who instead believe their abilities to be innate and unchangeable are said to possess a fixed mindset.

While our current life situations may be sustainable, even somewhat comfortable, the fact remains that by staying within these comfort zones we automatically close ourselves off to the possibility of thriving and living a life rich in passion, inspiration, and creativity.

The study of the neural pathways within the brain has proven that over time, our brains become accustomed to functioning in a certain way. This creates stronger pathways that are reinforced every time we act that way or think specific thoughts. (This is why habits are so hard to break!) When we adapt our thoughts and beliefs, we are literally reprogramming our brain.

It’s important to know that by knowingly re-directing our thoughts, we can influence changes in the brain. This leads to the cultivation of stronger, more positive pathways which will lead to a growth mindset.

To determine if you have a growth or fixed mindset, read each of the following statements and decide whether you mostly agree or disagree with it:

1. Your intelligence is something very basic about you that you can’t change very much.
2. You can learn new things, but you can’t really change how intelligent you are.
3. No matter how much intelligence you have, you can always change it quite a bit.
4. You can always substantially change how intelligent you are.

Questions 1 and 2 reflect a fixed-mindset. Questions 3 and 4 point to a growth mindset.

To learn more about your mindset, and how to change, visit http://bit.ly/FixedMindset

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With over 40 million Americans suffering from some form of anxiety, it’s time we took a long hard look at our beliefs and the society which cultivates them.

Fear can manipulate situations and cause us to subconsciously make choices and take actions that do not directly align with our values and beliefs. Fear underlies almost every wrong decision, negative reaction, and notions of self-doubt we’ve ever had.

Anxiety, panic, apprehension, and anger are forms of fear having manipulated itself and tricked us into thinking otherwise. The result? Many people end up self-medicating or abusing substances, so they don’t have to deal with the fears, thinking that by temporarily ignoring it, we are breaking up with it entirely.

To let go of our fears, we must first detach ourselves from them, which means cultivating a sense of self-awareness. Confronting your fears is the only way to access the ability to transform and break away from them.

A great technique that can help those seeking to let go of fears once and for all is to examine the worst-case scenario for whatever you’re fearing.

To start, zero into precisely what your fear is – try to narrow it down to a word or sentence if you can. This step can often prove the most challenging, especially for those unaccustomed to facing difficult emotions head-on. The key to this step is to be open, aware, and honest with yourself. Try writing down your fears if you’re struggling to dissect them.

Next, imagine the worst-case scenario surrounding each fear. By sitting through this discomfort, it becomes possible for you to release the feasibility of the situation and evaluate its likelihood.

Finally, take note of how each fear makes you feel paying particular attention to where in your body you feel it. For example, you may experience a tightness in the chest or nerves in your stomach. Over time you will recognize this feeling so you can address your fear before it gets out of control.

Confronting our fears while in a ‘safe’ environment is the best way to strengthen us to combat them when they might arise in an unexpected situation.

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