A Systematic Approach to Success in 2021

 Happy New Year!!!  It’s a new beginning, full of new dreams and a new path to travel. This is a time to refresh our perspective on life. Many of us will set goals and make New Year’s resolutions. We’ll promise ourselves to lose weight, eat right, and reduce the stress in our lives. Because of COVID-19, many of us simply want to forget the dark days of 2020. The pandemic has touched everyone in some way, and we all want to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

In this short article, I want to talk to people about getting from where they are to where they want to be.  I assure you that if you take a step-by-step approach, you’ll get there. Earl Nightingale says, “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”

A step-by-step approach requires clear planning and objectives to ensure the path you’re on is the right one.

How do you reach a place you’ve never been? How do you start a new task? I ask this because when you reach for massive goals and resolutions, you may become discouraged and finally turn away. To improve your chances of success, you need a plan. As Diana Ross sings in the theme from Mahogany, Do you know where you going? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going? What do you hope for? Do you know?

 Many of us are in a boat without a sail. We’re just drifting around or spinning out of control. Unless you have a plan, you’ll only be wasting your time, money, and energy. In my book, The Enemy in the Bush, I outline five life principles for navigating the land mines of fear, personal roadblocks, and mental limitations. Again, success requires a systematic approach.

I remember my first duty station assignment at Fort Bliss, in the great city of El Paso, Texas. I was assigned to a medical facility. The first day I reported for duty, the senior enlisted person (the Army Sergeant Major, whose name I can’t remember) sat me down and mapped out a plan for me. He talked through that plan with me, and to this day I use that plan, which I’m about to share with you. The Sergeant Major told me that if I wanted to be all that I wanted to be in the military, I had to hit a couple of milestones. When I left his office, I was ecstatic that someone had taken the time to show me the ropes and mentor me. I’ve included his formula inside my book, with slight modifications.

This plan uses a formula that I made up: 3P+R+P/A/G = SUCCESS. Planning, preparation, practice, resourcefulness, persistence, achieving the objective, and giving back. This method has been used all the way back from the Greeks to the Romans. I once heard that when Alexander the Great was tired of conquering the world, he wanted to become an orator. He mentioned this to his mentor, Aristotle, who wrote out 17 pages of instructions. Alexander followed those instructions and delivered some memorable speeches.

Similarly, I am giving you a summary of what is in great detail in my book. It’s a seven-step process that will assure success:

Planning: The first step to achieving your desired goals is planning. Planning is about thinking and plotting a sequence of step-by-step actions to achieve a desired result. Planning can reduce time and effort and be applied to different occupations. During this step, anticipate obstacles and come up with strategies to overcome them.

 Preparation: The next step is preparation. Visualizing your process will build your confidence. You must mentally prepare yourself for hard work to succeed. The willingness to do anything demands the right mindset. Preparation is the key element in determining success.

Practice: What you learn from your planning and preparation you must put into practice. Nelson Mandela wanted freedom for his people, and upon his release from jail he put his plan into action, which led to his election as the first black president of South Africa. He put his plan into practice, and he succeeded.

 Resourcefulness: Resourcefulness is about learning to think on your feet. Focus your attention on the resources you have. Resourcefulness comes into play when you don’t have enough cash to make it to your next paycheck, yet still figure out how to put food on the table. You have to keep a clear picture in your mind of what you want, and then start working on it. You are resourceful.  Even though we had very little my mother was resourceful. Growing up with nine other siblings, I never knew lack, my mother always ensured that we were provided for as children.   

Persistence: Persistence means heading steadily in a definite direction. It demands that you move forward with faith and confidence. Even if you fail, try again and again, because success does not come without failure. Thomas Edison tried almost a thousand times to create the light bulb. He wouldn’t have been successful if he wasn’t persistent. Quitting is easy; persistence is difficult.

Many good plans go to waste because the person does not persist after encountering failure. Successful people like Thomas Edison, Michael Jordan, and Nelson Mandela failed along their journey many times, yet persisted.

Achieving the objective. At this step, you can celebrate!

Giving Back Charity Work: Achieving your goals is not the final step. The Bible teaches the importance of giving to the needy in Matthew 25:40. In other words, the last step is giving back via charity.

Once you have accomplished your goal, it should benefit others, too. By giving back, we feel good spiritually, we increase our self-esteem, lower hormonal imbalance, and reduce depression. The more you bless others, the more you will be blessed. To quote President Jimmy Carter: “I have one life and one chance to make it count for something … My faith demands that I do whatever I can, wherever I am, whatever I can, for as long as I can with whatever I have to try to make a difference.” 

Success is being committed to continual growth, not just achieving some fixed goal. If you define success as just achieving a goal, you’ll be tempted to stop after you achieve the goal. In 2021, arrive at success in a systematic manner.  I guarantee you that if you want to lose weight, you can. If you want better relationships, you can have them. If you want to make more money, you can.  The sky’s the limit. I guarantee it!

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Your Attitude Determines your Destiny

                                                        Your attitude determines your altitude

On my desk in a picture frame, is my favorite quote by Zig Ziglar, when it comes to your attitude, “Your attitude determines your altitude.”   This reminds me to always keep my attitude in check because with the right positive mental attitude it could take you above during the storms of life.  Even when you don’t have control over the situation.

     To define our attitude, it’s the way we think and perceives the world, it’s the first thing which influence our behavior and exposes emotional and mental character of a person. With a positive attitude we can solve any type of problems and can face stressful situations.  Even when you don’t have control over the situation.  Having a positive attitude can hold us high above during the storms of life. 

      In my 20’s — I remember getting my first big job working for a big utility company as a meter reader, it had a six-month probationary period.   Then I got fired!!!   That Day, I remembered being call in the HR manager office on a Friday, there were Union Representatives and my supervisor.  I listened to 20 mins of complaints against me that did not represent my character, my work ethics, nor my Christian values.  I thought to myself, just a week ago, I received accolades 4 months straight for being the top meter reader in the department.  I was the guy that worked six days a week, worked the hard and dirty jobs no one wanted.  Surly I thought the permanent position looked promising.   What I was hearing was a description of someone else?   None of that mattered, still one week prior to the end of my probation on a Friday, I was Fired and told to pick up my last paycheck on false accusations.   I later I found out that I was making the older guys look bad. This wasn’t the norm of that department. So, I was expendable.    

However, I felt angry, confused, and felt betrayed by my supervisor and the company I worked for.   I remember sitting there refusing to allow this to shape my thoughts for violent retaliation.  So, I began to recite scriptures of my childhood and sung those songs I learned in Sunday School, “This little light of mine, I going to let it shine.”  I walked out of the office with peace and comfort.    And throughout the coming weeks I continued reciting those words of peace and comfort.

     Less than month later, I got a call from the Army recruiter and the rest is history.  It was my conscious awareness of the negativity present before me but, how in the mist of the storm, I shifted that mindset to a positive attitude that helped me to get through it, look your attitude serve as a compass in your life that directs your behavior. Changing the attitude of mind can change your behavior, direction and ultimately your destiny.

Quote: “A bend in the road is not the end of the road, unless you fail to make the turn.” -John C. Maxwell.                                                I took that turn, over 40 years!

I want to leave one thing with you, when you are struggling to maintain a positive mental attitude especially, now in this pandemic (Phil 4:8) Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Check out my other articles and blogs at http: thecarolyledestinygroup.one or http://dcdardentalk.com

Let me know if this of any value to you.

Derrick Darden, PhD

How to Add Value to People?

Do you add value to your people, employees, or team members? Or do you manipulate them?

Let’s look at both: adding value to employees, versus manipulating them for your advantage. Both start with attitude. Our attitude determines whether we will succeed or fail. The attitude of a leader, especially within the workplace or the organization, is contagious. It will send either a negative or positive message to employees. Your employees will react either way. Your actions speak louder than words.

Everything starts within the mind. Your thoughts, emotions, and beliefs, which form your attitude, are displayed in front of people. If you think people are lazy, always looking for a handout, and should be grateful for just having a job, your attitude may be clouding up a possibly good environment. In this case, your attempts to motivate your people and add value to them will be null and void.  

To quote Les Giblin: “You cannot make the other fellow feel important in your presence if you secretly feel that he is a nobody.” This is a great lesson. Just think about that when you find it difficult to acknowledge people or find it difficult to trust and believe in them. You can’t motivate or trick them into believing you have their best interests at heart. People are not fooled by hypocritical behavior. Therefore, when the opportunity presents itself, they will leave the company, organization, or directorate. People leave people, not organizations.      

A leader who shows that he genuinely wants to add value to his people is valuable to the company and its culture. So try to see your employees in a positive light. In the morning, when I first see my team, I smile. Then I say, “Good Morning! Glad to see you.” It is genuine and from the heart. Try to create a pleasant atmosphere before starting your day.  

So, how do you add value?

When I was leading hundreds of soldiers or employees, doing small things that were memorable to the people I led went a long way. I remembered their birthdays, kids’ names, hobbies, or something personal and unique to them.

To quote John Maxwell, people don’t care how much you know, they care about how much you care about them.

When you value people, you look out for their interests, you empower them, and you help them to grow both personally and professionally. Sydney J. Harris says, “People want to be appreciated, not impressed.” First and foremost, adding value to people means valuing people. I wish my leaders had learned this lesson. I would be telling you about memorable experiences instead of anguishing ones.  

Remember, people do as people see!

Derrick Darden ,PhD

Website: thecarolyledestinygroup.one

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